A little less than a month ago, my lovely counterparts at AmberMay posted a blog entitled “What Women Want”. After reading that, I decided to do the same thing, only this time it’ll be what a 2012 man wants. Pay attention very closely ladies, because this list gets quite extensive. (Not really.)
Physical Attraction
We’ll start out with the most obvious for us men. And honestly, if anyone male or female disagrees with me, you’re lying to yourself. I hear all the time that girls get annoyed by the fact that men seem to pick women to pursue based on their looks.
DUH!
This isn’t rocket science. It’s human nature. And if you girls think you don’t do it, take stock of who you find yourselves interested in and see if you’re not attracted to any of them.
Attention
Whether we admit it or not, we want your attention. Sure, we know we’re supposed to be the big manly man who protects you, but every once in awhile, we like to be able to put our heads in your lap and have you stroke OUR heads for a bit, or ask about something we’re interested in, even if you could care less. Now, 90% of the male population probably wouldn’t ever say that in front of their friends, but get them in a closed environment and we’re all human, which means we crave security as well.
Space
WAIT! MIKE! You just said men want attention!! Okay, okay, calm down. Let me explain. Do YOU want a man who follows you around like a lost puppy dog, never lets you go out with your friends without making you feel like you’re doing something wrong and just overall smothers the shit out of you? No. I didn’t think so. We’re the same way! We still need to be able to live our lives, hang out with our friends and have a little bit of independence. My dad used to tell me that a good relationship is two independent people who CHOOSE to be together. Not need to be together. So, give your man a day off every now and then.
Communication
For the love of all that is sacred, please, don’t assume that we know what you’re thinking. Men and women are typically on two different wavelengths. We’re usually going to take things literally. So when you say “Sure, go out with your friends tonight!” Even though you’re thinking “We haven’t had a date night for weeks and I’d really like to spend time with you so now you’ll pay for this with a week of no sex and the silent treatment” there’s a reason we’re ridiculously confused. Just tell us. We’ll compromise.
On a similar note, I’ve often heard the “Just a text during the day to let me know he’s thinking of me.” I have two notes about that:
1. Make sure we’re aware you want that. Some of us are curious if we’re being overbearing or if you even want to hear that kind of stuff. No one (male/female) likes rejection of any kind.
2. Newsflash: WE LIKE IT TOO. Give and take kids. Give and take.
See, told you it wasn’t a very long list. I’m sure there’s other things, but when it comes down to it, most things can be lumped into these categories. Share this with all your guy friends and have them leave me a comment if they have anything to add to the list. And of course. I don’t profess to be the all knowing. Just majority knowing.
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And this is why I'll never understand why we women make it out like men are so hard and complicated. We read into every action and word, as if there is some hidden meaning behind it, when there never is. That's OUR deal. I've never once met a guy who didn't say what he meant, and meant what he said.
ReplyDeleteReally though, when it comes down to it, I feel like those four things are the basis of what EVERYONE wants, male or female. If we get all four of those things, then there shouldn't be an issue, and if there is, it's your own bullshit and issues clouding the air. That's how I see it, anyway. We aren't complex creatures, we just make ourselves that way.
"We aren't complex creatures, we just make ourselves that way."
DeleteYou hit the nail on the head with that one. Now the trick is figuring out how to stop that mentality and K.I.S.S. (keep it simple stupid).